Thursday, April 1, 2010

And Now, For the Downside

I try to stay pretty upbeat in these posts. No one wants to hear me whining, least of all me. But folks, we're on the slow slide down as we get ready to head out of here, so expect a bit of whining over the next few months. This moving-every-three-years business is not easy.

The other night at dinner, Aidan was getting worked up about moving. He's already told several friends that he will not be moving to Jordan. "I'll go there," he said, "and I'll ride a camel. But then I'm coming back."

I explained again that we're moving to Jordan for three years, which means he'll be there for 2nd, 3rd and 4th grade. He sighed deeply, then put his head down on the table. From beneath his elbow, he wailed, "So, we're not gonna move back to China until I'm in the FIFTH grade?"

Poor guy. I didn't have the heart to tell him we're never moving back to China.


Because I am SO over this place.

There. Enough whining for now. If you want to hear some more complaining, from a foreign service person who is hilariously complaintastical, go check out Facts Are Strictly Optional. When she complains, I laugh. When I complain, my eyes roll back in my head as I bore even myself.

And now - I have several kids whining even as I type. What do they want? Attention? Dessert? Who knows. Guess I'd better go find out.


FS, here we come! said... [Reply]

That sounds hard. Trying to put up a good front for everybody else, seem excited about what's next. Keep the kids fed, happy, well-rested, educated and not go berzerk in the meantime. I agree, Facts Optional blog is hilarious. Hang in there!

Donna said... [Reply]

@FS - You overestimate me. I gave up on keeping the kids well-rested and educated a long, long time ago. I do still try to feed them on occasion. Good luck with your Easter plans, by the way - I'm going to try out that Ohio joke on someone at the first opportunity.

FS, here we come! said... [Reply]

My daughter is currently saying, "There once was a mama who never wanted to read to her daughter, she only wanted to play games on her computer. Come on, Mama, read, to me. Read, read, reaaaaaaaaad, mamamamamamamaam, Mama? Hello?"
Ah, parenting.

Bfiles said... [Reply]

hi there, can't remember if I've commented so forgive me if this is a repeat. I have been enjoying your blog. I'm an FS candidate going thru clearances, hoping to be a tandem couple w/ my husband who takes the OA soon. We have 2 young kids.
The topic of your blog does worry me a fair amount as I contemplate this it fair to uproot my kids every few years and constantly make them adapt to new homes?
In your situation, it's probably easier, knowing that Jordan is a great post and your son will surely adapt quickly and end up having a great time. I'm sure it would be harder if you were moving from a post you love to one you're not as sure about.
And for myself, I can't help thinking that the opportunity to live in places like China and Jordan is surely more enriching than staying in the same NYC suburb all your life! I wish you luck and look forward to hearing more! Thanks for sharing your life w/ us.
PS I've linked to your blog from mine, let me know if you object

Digger said... [Reply]

I laughed out loud at the never going back to China part. I feel the same way about Jerusalem. I tell people I didn't leave anything behind when I left so I never have to go back!

Raymonde said... [Reply]

I felt very touched by your post today.

I enjoy your emails from the embassy, in a selfish way I am looking forward from the ones coming from Jordan, but I also feel for you and the kids with the upheaval.

Take care. xxx

Kristen said... [Reply]

Wow, if this is you complaining, I can only hope to be so graceful!! I love your blog, and always appreciate your transparency and openness!

Donna said... [Reply]

Yes, Kristen, graceful is the word people most often use to describe me. (Modest, too. Graceful and modest!)

Bfiles, I'll write more on the topic soon. It's important. You're right: it isn't fair to move kids every few years, and they suffer in all sorts of ways. But the things they gain! It opens up a whole new world to them. I think, in the end, it'll turn out to have been a good thing, even if some of the adjustments hurt at times. Personally, I find that the benefits for my kids far outweigh the negatives.

globalgal said... [Reply]

I moved for the first time when I was 3. I don't really remember. Then we moved again when I was 8. Then when I was 11. Then THREE times when I was 12. Then again when I was 16, this time to the Middle East. Then back to America at 18... I started moving on my own when I was 25. Then at 26. Then at 27. Then at 30. Now again soon at 34...

I know it was hard. I know I was mad at my parents, especially for those three moves at 12! But looking back now, all I see are the fantastic benefits. I learned so much about the world. I wouldn't change anything. I decided to continue the nomadic life as an adult, but many TCKs do not. For me, the benefits far outweighed the negatives, but it did take a few years perspective for me to figure that out!
~Global Gal, the former oil-field brat

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fsowannabe said... [Reply]

That sounds rough. I'll pray that your move is as pain-free (emotionally, as well as on your stuff), as possible!

Jill said... [Reply]

Again... relating. Oh so relating...

Connie said... [Reply]

Honor was upset that we were leaving Cairo and 'never coming home again', but after landing in Amman, she (and her brother) was immediately asking if we could stay longer than 3 years. It's so comfortable here! The moving process is painful... whine and whinge if/because it helps (:-) ... but you'll be settled again soon enough. We'll have to get you and yours out to play ... perhaps to Jerash for running around the sites and a casual lunch? ... asap!... Aidan and Honor will be in the same grade next year, maybe even the same class, how fun is that?! :)

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