I should be working right now. I am researching an article about relationship challenges overseas: how does your relationship with your husband change when you move overseas? Did you give up a job to follow him, and if so, do you resent him for this or are you happy with your decision? What are the major stressors in an overseas marriage (loneliness, lack of communication skills, lack of car??)? How do you keep your relationship on track?
Funnily enough, lots of people are willing to talk to me, but no one wants to go on record. So I can’t write, for example, “Julie Smith remembers the time she locked her husband out of the bedroom when he told her they were moving.” It’s a great topic, though, and I’m learning a lot as I research. Problem is, I haven’t found a structure for the article yet.
Today, Shay is home from school with a bad cough – the same one that is decimating our neighborhood. Tomorrow, I’ll be at school all day for the Terry Fox run and the kindergarten barbeque and learning to read seminars and tea with the Chinese principal and gawd help me but I don’t know how I’ll fit all of this into one day.
My article isn’t actually due for another week, but next week is a holiday, and I’ve given my ayi an entire week off. Can I do it? Can I survive a whole week on my own with four kids (no school next week), no ayi and a writing deadline?
I know some of you out there reading this have tons of experience with overseas moves, so tell me – if you dare – what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced in keeping your marriage happy? What’s the stupidest post-move argument you’ve ever had? And please: what are your tips for others out there who are ready to throw the dishes at their husbands and hop on the next plane out of town?